11-10-2019, 04:29 PM
Life happened, and we fell in love. My boyfriend is Orthodox. I was baptized Catholic but grew up in a household that did not practice. I am very spiritual, but didn't have a clear idea of who God was to me.
My boyfriend and I are eight months in, and trying to figure out if we can really make a future together. He is truly struggling with having non-jewish kids. I don't feel it would be right or true to myself to have an Orthodox conversion. The more we have spent time together, the more I truly appreciate the religion and the history. I have been enlightened, and it's a part of my life that I appreciate he has provided to me. All that being said, I still don't feel an Orthodox conversion makes sense for me. I would however, see the benefit of raising children in an Orthodox home.
If anyone has any suggestions for options whether it be my conversion to conservative or reform, and conversion of the children after birth. I'm wondering what the requirements are for children to go to Orthodox school in this situation. I'm looking at any possible options, even IVF with a Jewish egg, or adoption. My boyfriend is seeing things as very black and white, whereas I am desperate there must be some kind of option to make this work between us. Any advice and honest feedback will help. Thanks!
My boyfriend and I are eight months in, and trying to figure out if we can really make a future together. He is truly struggling with having non-jewish kids. I don't feel it would be right or true to myself to have an Orthodox conversion. The more we have spent time together, the more I truly appreciate the religion and the history. I have been enlightened, and it's a part of my life that I appreciate he has provided to me. All that being said, I still don't feel an Orthodox conversion makes sense for me. I would however, see the benefit of raising children in an Orthodox home.
If anyone has any suggestions for options whether it be my conversion to conservative or reform, and conversion of the children after birth. I'm wondering what the requirements are for children to go to Orthodox school in this situation. I'm looking at any possible options, even IVF with a Jewish egg, or adoption. My boyfriend is seeing things as very black and white, whereas I am desperate there must be some kind of option to make this work between us. Any advice and honest feedback will help. Thanks!