General Discussion Jewish faith and the morality of money, 4 questions

[A Martijn]

I don’t know you, your wife, or the doctor. I don’t know how truthful, or accurate, your story is. Presuming what you’ve presented is a true and accurate portrayal of the situation, let me give you a Reader’s Digest version of Jewish law.

The doctor is obligated to repay the loans made to him. The doctor is in violation of Jewish law if he has failed to take such actions that would enable him to pay back the loans or has engaged in actions that would make him unable to pay back the loans. And, no, feeding you dinner and sharing wine with you is not paying you back - unless you have agreed to accept those in lieu of payment. And, yes, you as a creditor are entitled to initiate appropriate action - legal proceedings - to obtain payment.

While charity is a Jewish virtue, Jewish law prohibits giving so much to charity that one becomes, oneself, dependent on charity.

Dear RabbiO,

I am deeply grateful you for your reply and comments, they are appreciated. I understand the principle described, and it at least gives me comfort that I am not going insane. 

I will continue to pray for the necessary strength to face this situation and take the necessary actions, and continue to strive for the best way to serve God while being realistic about my life situation and abilities.

Blessings,

A.M.